Oh My Beautiful Hometown – quiet, humble city. Thank You for dressing up for me.
I was listening to my favorite radio station the other day while I was driving into the city. It’s an interactive station. It’s hip and fun. They play all the newest songs. And some oldies.
I’ve listened to this station for years. Probably 20 or more. On this particular morning, the DJ asked his listening audience when it was that they truly felt like an adult. Did they remember the moment in time? There were a lot of predictable answers.
When I got married…
After the birth of my first child…
When I was diagnosed with….
Driving down the freeway towards my destination, I lost myself in thought as the soft sounds of the radio continued playing in the background. When was it that I truly felt like an adult for the first time…
I had been through so much in the past 2 years. My life had changed so drastically. A diagnosis of Cancer. Surgeries. Radiation. Moving my husbands parents across the country ~ back home here. He and I had gone from the role of adult children to caregivers. The loss of my Father-in-Law. The loss of my beloved Mother.
The sting of my Mom’s death was still fresh. The wound still deep.
I went back to my hometown a few weeks ago. Back to the place where I was raised. Where I had grown up. The Midwestern town that had shaped me into the adult I am today. I needed to go back and go through my Mom’s house one last time. We had put it on the market shortly after her death. It had sold in a matter of weeks. I brought a friend along with me for moral support. The same friend who had helped me through some very dark days after my Mom’s immediate death. And I met with my sweet sister, Nancy, there that day, too.
I did not know how I would react to the necessity of this final act of letting go. Her home was the last materialistic and tangible object remaining of her time with us in this life. And now, that too, would soon become just a sweet memory.
As I worked together with my sister and dear friend to clear out what was left of her belongings, I thought to myself how odd and somewhat sad it is that we accumulate all of these materialistic things during our lifetime. Treasures to us. But to others, just objects. Often, objects of no interest to those left behind after a loved one dies. And at the end of your life, it’s as if you just open up your front door, walk out on your life. All of your things are just left behind.
I came across things that I had not seen in years. Things that would bring out a sudden laugh or chuckle. Things that made me smile ~ each one stirring a treasured memory. I found myself laughing more than crying that day. And, I knew my mom would be laughing right beside me. She was lighthearted. And fun. And always found the humor in any situation. I inherited that from her. Her take on life was also mine. Her sense of humor I shared, too. Thank You, Mom!!
I thought back upon my deep love for my Mom throughout that entire day. When did our relationship change from mother-daughter to a true, deep friendship? I could not pinpoint the time, but I knew there was most definitely a metamorphosis that had taken place. We truly were friends. We enjoyed each others company and shared so many moments together that two girlfriends would share. Hour long phone calls. Often as long as 2+ hours. We traveled together. A lot. And during those travels we became closer and closer. We saw things for the first time together and were in awe as we traveled and our eyes were opened to new experiences. Italy. France. Spain. Parts of the USA as well. She became close to my children. They formed close bonds with her. So much so, that they would travel by themselves to see her and spend time with her. All treasured memories now, locked up in my heart.
As we finished our task that day and were walking out, I turned back one last time and looked around at what had once been her home. When did I truly first feel like an adult? I never felt more adult than I did in that moment. I was left behind here on Earth while my Mother, who I love more than words can describe, had gone home to be with my Dad in Heaven.
My Love for my Mom and Dad is deep rooted in my heart and soul. Forever.
Tomorrow is Mother’s day. I am going to be celebrating my Mom and smiling at the memory of her inner beauty, over-abundance of unconditional love, our deep friendship, and her selfless gift of being the best role model I could have ever asked for.
I miss her so, so, so much. I’m sure she is smiling down on me right now from her new home in Heaven.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. I Love You.
In honor of Mother’s Day, Jimmy Kimmel hit the streets of Los Angeles to ask moms, “Whats the most shocking thing your kids don’t know about you?” Some of the answers range from boring, to “what the…” to just plain hilarious. Watch the video above to see some of the best responses.
It’s a rainy day. No, a STORMY day. It’s raining so hard outside that I can barely see out my windows. The wind is howling. The trees are bent in half. There are warnings scrolling across the bottom of my television screen telling us that there is a severe storm warning going on. NO JOKE!
Well, that settles it. I can not possibly go out in this mess to the gym. Hurray!! A Valid excuse for NOT exercising! What a great day!!
I have had a bit of writers block lately. It hits me off and on. For all different reasons. And then just like that, I get inspired. The source of my inspiration this morning? A blustery, severe thunderstorm outside my window. Now if I don’t lose my power I’ll be all set!!
With storms blowing just outside my front door and Mother’s Day right around the corner, it’s the perfect time to start putting a little thought into how to make mom’s day special for her. It’s reallllly not so hard to please mom. We moms are happy when someone else cooks for us AND cleans up. We are happy as can be when surrounded by those we love. That means you… who we have birthed and raised.
It really is that easy. We don’t need fancy, expensive gifts. In fact, the gift of your company is the best present everrr! We don’t want you to spend your hard-earned money on us. And, here’s a little secret. There is most definitely a little list of gift ideas you probably should avoid. To help you out, I’ve compiled a few of those things for you here.
…We love getting them!!!!….at our wedding showers.
This gift screams – “I didn’t want to put any thought into your present this year….”
Honey, we’ll be right back…….
Really? And here we thought those were just your chores.
“No honey, those jeans don’t make you look fat!”
The world’s best buffet is generally not our favorite fine dining spot.
What can I say – FAIL
So speaking for moms everywhere ~ Do not get caught up in the commercialism of the day. The gifts are lovely. However, just spending the day with you is the best gift of all!! Not to worry tho, if you are guilty of giving these gifts in the past, Mom still loves you. And, the good news is, you can redeem yourself because Mother’s Day comes around every year.
And if all else fails………