Walking a mile in their ALS shoes

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This past week as I was bombarded with ice bucket video clips on Facebook, I thought to myself…..I need to blog about this!!   I want to do my part to bring awareness to this terrible disease.  I thought about all the different spins I could put into the post.   And then, just like that, an amazing article was brought to my attention.  An article written by someone who this disease has personally touched.  As I read through her thoughts which she herself blogged about, I knew I could not put into words, what she had managed to do.

Read on…


What An ALS Family REALLY Thinks About the Ice Bucket Challenge

by Bo Stern

Well, we are on week two of the very-viral very-everywhere ALS ice bucket challenge.  I know, I know, I can hear the groans…it started out cute and now it’s out-of-control.  Played.  Clogging up social media sites everywhere.

I even read an article in which the author called the challenge (that has raised an unprecedented amount of money for one of the most outrageously underfunded diseases) a waste of fresh water. Another headline whined, Is the Ice Bucket Challenge Going to Cure ALS?”  Um, no (and – btw – that’s a stupid bar to set for any fundraiser.)  Critics complain that the challenge is really about feeding our American narcissism and does nothing for ALS awareness or funding.  They assert that people should just quietly donate their money and move on with their lives.

I get that they’re cranky, but I think maybe they don’t realize what it’s like to face this insidious disease and then realize that it’s nearly invisible to the rest of the world.  As I watch my husband become entombed inside his own body, I feel desperate for people to understand that this sort of inhumane condition exists. But for some reason, while everyone acknowledges it’s one of the worst fates imaginable, funding for research and patient care is nearly nil. I recently mentioned to a doctor that my husband has ALS and she first looked confused and then said, “Oh, that’s Lou Gehrig’s Disease, right?”  Right.  Why does she -a  doctor of medicine – still only know it by Lou Gehrigs Disease?  Because we humans need to associate things with people.  It’s easier that way.  That’s why the celebrity faces and personal challenges happening in the ice bucket challenge are so effective at bringing in money.  And if someone gets to look good while plunking their $50 in the ALS tip jar, I have zero problem with that.  

Because here’s the deal: We are in for the fight of our lives with this monster, and the very LAST thing I want is for people to give quietly, anonymously, and then slink away. Raise the roof!  Raise a ruckus!  Call all sorts of attention to yourself!  I will be happy for you and every Facebook like you receive, as you nudge ALS an inch or two closer to the collective public consciousness.

So, fear not, dear reader, this too shall pass and your Facebook newsfeed will go back to cat videos and kids singing Let It Go. Until that happens, here’s a little reminder about what it’s like to live with ALS and why this level of awareness is like gold to families like mine.

 

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A Mile in ALS Shoes

People ask me often what it’s like to live with ALS. It’s a brave question because the answers are not very pleasant. But it’s also such a worthy question because understanding how this disease impacts those who suffer from it creates empathy which is so valuable; it carries us into another person’s world and allows us to understand what they’re feeling and how they’re hurting. As I watch my strong husband struggle with things that used to be easy and automatic, I sometimes wish that everyone could see life from his perspective.

If you would like to experience just a tiny corner of an ALS life, I have a list of Empathetic Experiences for you. These are things you can do to walk for just a mile in ALS shoes. If you try one, take a little time at the end to consider that people actually living with the disease have a million miles more to go.

 

    1. Pick up a 10-pound weight. Now imagine it’s your fork and move it from your plate to your mouth repeatedly without shaking.
    2. Sit in a chair for just 15 minutes moving nothing but your eyes. Nothing. No speaking, no scratching your nose, no shifting your weight, no changing the channel on the television, no computer work. Only your eyes. As you sit, imagine: this is your life. Your only life.
    3. Borrow a wheelchair or power scooter and try to maneuver quickly through the aisles at Walmart, without speaking. Note the way people react to you.
    4. Strap 25 pounds to your forearm. Now, adjust your rearview mirror.
    5. Using none of your own muscles, have your spouse or child or friend get you dressed and brush your teeth. Write down some of the feelings you have being cared for in this way.
    6. Before you eat your next meal, take a good, long look at the food. Inhale deeply and appreciate the aroma. Now, imagine never being able to taste that – or any other food – for the rest of your life.
    7. Put two large marshmallows in your mouth and have a conversation with your friends. How many times must you repeat yourself? How does this make you feel?
    8. Go to bed and stay in one position for as long as you possibly can, moving nothing.
    9. Strap weights to your ankles and climb a flight of stairs, taking two at a time. That’s the kind of strength it takes for someone with ALS to tackle the stairs on a good day.
    10. Install a text-to-speech app on your phone or iPad and use it exclusively to communicate for one day.

 

And to my friends living with ALS: please give us more ideas and help us move into your world for a bit. We want to help make your lives rich and full and I’m not sure we can do that without at least a basic understanding of what you are facing. I think I speak for many when I say: you are superheroes and we are in awe.

With unending hope for a million-mile cure,
Bo

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Remember These?

 

Last February, Facebook celebrated a big birthday.  As a way of saying Thank You to the millions of people who use Facebook on a daily basis, they gave each of us a short – one minute – personal birthday video.  A photo montage of highlights from our lives – starting from the anniversary of your FB join date.  The perfect minute, set to the perfect music.  They did it so tastefully.

I watched mine over and over again when it first came out.  Then the excitement faded a bit and like a beloved childhood toy, it sat dusty on a shelf.  Unwatched, but readily available for those days when you felt reminiscent.  Or in need of a little pick-me-up.

And, I do reach for mine.  I reach for it on days when I need a reminder of just how blessed I am.   It’s a constant reminder of just how much I have been given in my life and how fortunate I am to be surrounded by an amazing family and dear friends.

Are you on Facebook?  Do you remember the day you received your birthday video?  When was the last time you dusted it off and watched it?

Today is a good day to take a moment to sit back, take a short breather, and be grateful for the many blessings that surround you every single day.

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Bon Appétit

Did you know that there is literally a different food or beverage honored on just about every day of the year?

Wait. What?

You may be asking yourself – Why does the U.S. need all of these National Food Days?  Who decided that on January 14th it was National Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day?  Why on February 8th do we salute Peach Melba?  (Excuse me, but what is Peach Melba??)  I mean, sure, french fries deserve the accolades, but don’t pretend anyone’s actually dying to celebrate national raisins.

Today is National Dry Martini Day.  Hip Hip Hooray!!!  OK, not true,  Yesterday was martini day.  However, I have decided to celebrate yesterday’s day, today…well, because martini’s.

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I know this fun (martini) food fact because I couldn’t sleep last night and was up at 2:30 a.m. browsing Google for some new cocktail recipes and stumbled upon this website – BoozeMenus which lead me to check that fact out on the AMERICAN FOOD HOLIDAYS site – and they said it was true.  This is good news because A) I like food holidays and B) I like martini’s.  Since the national food days calendar includes fun cocktails and interesting beverages, it’s a win – win!

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After finally calming down from my initial joy in finding out that it was the day to celebrate the dry martini, I started skimming through the list of celebrated foods that have their own self appointed day.  I was surprised – no, shocked!! – to see the names of some of the odd selections that made the cut.  The list not only included celebrated foods, but also tossed in a few activities –

May 6 – No Diet Day (Love this one!!)

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August 31 – Eat Outside Day.

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A national holiday technically needs to be recognized by Congress, and though I hate to disappoint, I have to let you all know that these National Food Days are not officially recognized holidays. Shocking, I know.

If you could nominate one of your favorite foods to be celebrated nationally, which would it be?  Which will you be celebrating this year?  Confused by all the National Food Holidays that just seem to pop-up out of thin air? America makes sure each acclaimed food holds its rightful place on the calendar. Celebrate your favorite foods this year by using this handy guide!!  You’re Welcome!!

– American FoodHolidays –

 

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Sister’s FAB NYC Vaca!!!

We’reeee Backkkkkkk……

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I was overwhelmed when I returned home from our FABULOUS SISTER’S NYC VACATION to find as many comments and posts to Twenty-Thirteen asking for details and a follow-up to our Super-Duper-Awesome get-away!!  Wow! Thanks, People!

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I need to sort through all of the glorious, memorable details and collect my scattered, exhausted thoughts first.  As a teaser, I can tell you that there was an unfortunate incident that left me flattened (not to mention, embarrassed!!) atop of the Brooklyn Bridge.  Oh My!!  My sister looked on, mouth gaping open……

Well, you will just have to be patient.  Stay Tuned!!

There’s no place like home…  There’s no place like home…

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